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Saying how you feel will never ruin a real connection
Real connections can handle the truth. Can yours?
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Have you ever been in a situation where you hesitated to express how you truly felt? Instead, you chose to say what you knew others wanted to hear, rather than what was actually in your heart? I used to fear that being honest about my emotions could ruin a relationship. But in reality, a true relationship will not fall apart just because of honesty.
In the past, people around me always said that they rarely saw me being angry for something. Someone even told me they were surprised that, throughout our close relationship, I had never once shown frustration or disagreement, even when they repeatedly made mistakes. Looking back, I realized I was simply avoiding conflict. I chose the easiest option: saying what others wanted to hear, even when it contradicted my true feelings.
But in the end, this only backfired on me and my relationships with others. I lost touch with my own emotions because I had become so used to hiding them behind something else. I also struggled to empathize with others and understand their perspectives truly because I assumed they were doing the same; hiding their real feelings.
